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Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway!

Back in August I headed out for another adventure with some more of my swimming buddies, this time to Pembrokeshire.
One of our activities was Coasteering (jumping off rocks into the sea).
This activity pushed the boundaries and anxiety buttons for several of us. But we were in good hands, great company beautiful scenery and perfect weather and conditions.
The thought of jumping off a 3 meter cliff into deep water filled many of us with total dread… But of course we didn’t start with a 3 meter jump.
Initially we were introduced to small step off of a rock that was half a meter above the calm waters, and this was after a safety briefing.
Bit by bit we were exposed higher jumps until eventually we reached a rock that offered a range of different heights, 2, 3 and 4 meters! Gradually we each jumped from the first, then back again to do it again, and again. Once we felt ‘comfortable’ with one height, we moved to the next height.
I’m not going to lie, it took me a fair amount of mental effort to jump the 3 meters, but I did it!… eventually! Not once but twice!! (However I was happy to leave the 4 meter jump to the others who didn’t struggle with heights in the way I did).
By being exposed to these jumps bit by bit we gradually desensitised to the fear. It didn’t go away entirely but became manageable to the point we all thoroughly enjoyed the experience. We encouraged each other and whooped and praised each other too.
That’s exactly the way I encourage my clients to work towards their goals of being able to drive on roads that appear too scary to cope with initially. By graduated desensitisation or in other words… baby steps. Dip your toe in, then your ankle.. and so on. (If you’ll pardon the metaphor).
It is easier to walk away. But give it a try see how the experience can open up your world to endless possibilities.
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